love means that I care about the welfare of the person I love to extent that it is genuine ,my caring is not a smothering of the person or a possessive clinging .I’m concerned about his growth and I hope he will become all that he can become ,and never put up roadblocks to what he does that enhances him as a person.
Love means having respect for the dignity of the person I love him as a separate person ,with his own values and thoughts and feelings, and I don’t insist that he surrender his identity and conform to an image of what I expect him to be for me .I can allow and encourage him to stand alone and to be who he is ,and avoid treating him as an object or using him primarily to gratify my own needs .
I n short ,in love tow beings become one and yet remain two.
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